three conversations

-1- 

[in his car, on the way to dinner]

Him: Do you know who is this singer? I really like her. 

Me: *trying to listen carefully* Mmmm... No..I don't think I know... 

Him: Are you sure? 

Me: Yes. Who is her?

Him: You don't know? Get out of the car now!

Me: Um ok. *trying to unfasten the seat belt* 

Him: *Laughing so hard* I am kidding.

Me: I think I know. This is Madonna! 

Him: Ah there you go! *caressing my hair*

Me: Oh my God you are so gay! Gayer than I am! 

Him: But she is good! 

-2-

[in my bed, the first time he stayed over]

Him: Do you know you snore? 

Me: *looking at him, trying to stay awake* No way. 

Him: Yeah you do. 

Me: You're teasing me. Go to sleep. 

Him: *reaching for his iPhone* Here, listen. 

Me: What? You voice-record me snoring?

Him: Yes. *laughing* 

Me: Noo.. *the voice-memo started to play* 

Me: God, I snored! *laughing* 

Him: Yeah, you're so cute. *hugging me from behind* 

Me: Go to sleep. 

-3- 

[one cold night after a week not seeing each other]

Him: I miss you. *licking my body*

Me: I miss you too. 

Him: I love your body. And the whole package. 

Me: *rolling eyes* You're lying! 

Him: *laughing* No I am not. You know that. What about you?

Me: Me? What are you talking?

Him: *licking my ears* What do you like about me? 

Me: Everything. *carried away by his tongue* 

Me: Wait. *gasping* I like it when you said 'oh yeah' while licking my body. 

Him: *stop licking* Really? 

Me: Yes. *Smiling* 

Him: *whispering* Oh yeah.. *licking my ears again* Oh yeah.. 

Me: *laughing* Just because I love it, doesnt mean you have to do it all the time. 

the meet me halfway

I always thought that difference was not a problem in a relationship. There's this naive boy inside me who chose to believe that even two completely-opposite guys could date long as it was love. A dork could be made for a hunk, someone who really hates the football could fall for a soccer player, and so on. Because there's no other us - we're each a unique person. People are created differently.

But the thing is, at what point do we draw the line?

It was when I saw this comic drawn by someone: a geek with long hair and beard was dating a super hot girl. His wardrobe was superheroes themed, and all in all you can say at first that he got a nice catch with the girl. Then the girl started to change him: she asked him to wear polo shirts instead, to shave his beard, and have his hair cut. By the end of the panels, she was dumping him. So it made me wonder: when two completely opposite people are dating, how long does it take before they start to try to change each other? And do you go along with that? Do you just walk out? Where do we really draw the line? Do you change yourself and then demand things from your significant other? Where is the halfway?

For me, I can't say much: I would give it a chance before call it end. At some point, it's not about 'changing' that very person, but more to 'accepting' them as they are.

Back to a few years ago, when I first moved to B-town, I met several people: we started to hang out and befriend each other. Then things happened: we each learnt our flaws. We had fights. I had fights. All four of us were falling out each other. But then we managed to be friends again. We learnt to accept the flaws, we learnt to accept each other. And I think when it comes to relationship, we need to be that accepting too...

The thing is, when it comes to relationship, acceptance is a difficult and expensive trait - or so I think. At the moment you become too attached to someone, you start to think: what is the best for them? And suddenly you just find yourself forcing things to your significant other - exactly just like when we're little kids, and our parents would try to teach us things. Is it something wrong? Offensive? Harmful? Frankly, I don't know.

But I do know that when it is not working, it is just not working.